Frequently, I see people in their lives, so intent on maintaining their highest degree ideal. A perfectly clean home, straight a’s, the best clothes, the best boyfriend. Even more so, I notice these things causing stress for people — a great deal of it, too. I think people need to sit back, and realize that things will be okay. Things will work themselves out if you let them. That’s not to say you should disengage from you life, and make no effort to better things for yourself– I’m not saying that at all.
Let me clarify through example. You have a 3.8 GPA, and you’re after a 4.0 GPA to get into your ideal college. There is absolutely nothing wrong with this: you have a specific goal, and you’re actively trying to reach it. You got your most recent test back: it’s an 80% — which brings this class down to an 89% for the semester — which might bring your GPA down to 3.7 or some such figure. Rather than entering a state of panic, stop, and breathe. Think about things rationally. Fact: your test caused your GPA to drop by one tenth, when you needed it to raise 2 tenths leaving you with 3 tenths to meet your goal. Seeing as you have a high performance as a student, your teachers would be more than likely to help you boost your grade in many ways- maybe turning in homework you may have missed, redoing the test, an extra credit assignment, making corrections to your test, etc. Let’s say you have the absolute worst teacher that has almost zero compassion and won’t lend you a hand. Things are still okay. You’re alive, and breathing. Somewhere out there is some man in a prison, who would love to be in your situation. Keep things in a proportional perspective: you are still going to be okay. Your college may still accept you even with a 3.0 GPA. If they don’t, there are likely many other colleges who would. Maybe if you go to a different college, you may meet the most amazing friend you’ve ever had — and that’s something worth more than any education, gift, or material possession I’ve ever encountered.
Better yet! You’re stranded on an island. You’re starving, dehydrated, and maybe a day from death. Let’s say you die: nothing to do, no responsibilities, liabilities, and depending on who you ask, an amazing home to return to. Let’s say you don’t die: you have an amazing story to tell when you get home, you’re a stronger person, and you’ve had a new experience. You still should fight for food, and find water, but you don’t have to feel doomed. Either way, things can only get better for you, for the most part. What is never going to help you, is sitting down, realizing how easy it would be for things to go horribly wrong, and force yourself into a mindset of failure. You’re going to fail no matter what, so why bother trying? Well, if you don’t try, you definitely will fail – there’s no two ways about that. So grit your teeth, try a little harder, and smile even though it hurts.
Long story short, don’t get so caught up in the negatives that you trap yourself there. Climbing out of that rut is difficult, but staying out of it is really simple. You just have to realize that you are in control of your internal state, and that short of dying, you can always attempt to change things for the better. If you fail and die, then you’re out of your misery at least. If you succeed, your free. Whereas complaining will simply leave you to suffer indefinitely. So, sit back, relax, and live with your mistakes. They’re there, and they won’t disappear. You always have the chance to try again.